Sometimes I wonder why people say certain things to people because they think that is ‘comforting cancer patient’.

A few things I personally experienced:

1. You have no choice, you need to go for MASTECTOMY!
   What do you mean I have no choice? Its my body, okay! In case you forget, dumbass!
2. It just a piece of meat. (Coming from a male, its insensitive.)
   Hello! I am not a cow, pig or lamb. What meat?? If I ask you to cut off your penis and say its just a piece of meat what, it okay. you can still pee and shit. Why not?? You will be alive! That’s important!
   #canyouhearmysarcasm
3. Breast Cancer is good cancer.
   If breast cancer is good cancer, then you can go and have it. I am happy to share it. For your information, CANCER is bad! Full stop!! #bitchinessdon’tgoawayevenwhenyouhavecancer « #bestnewsever
4. Don’t ask a cancer patient “Are you okay?”
   I want to ask “What do you think?” ‘Roll eyes moment’
   My answer these days is: “I am not okay. I have cancer, remember.” ‘Okay another roll eyes moment’ Hopefully my eyes don’t get stuck in my upper eyelids.
   (*For those who are nice and they ask me this question, I say to them, I am coping well with treatments.)
5. Don’t tell a cancer patient undergoing chemotherapy that chemotherapy is bad!
   I know it is bad. It kills all my good and bad including cancer cells. Sometimes I feel like telling some of these people who read all sort of articles on the internet that THEY PERSONALLY NEVER TRY BEFORE (on natural remedies) with NO REFERENCES FROM ANY MEDICAL WEBSITE that if you are willing to be responsible for my life like my doctors, I will try out the remedy.
   You are indirectly telling me my doctors are stupid because they give me chemotherapy while directly telling me I am dumbass because I pay them to kill me.
   If you are not part of a solution, please don’t be part of my problem!
   *FYI, I have a girlfriend who tried out a natural remedy with her father who was at the end stage of his cancer and it lengthen his life. But she never insist or send me articles to tell me I am an idiot which I greatly appreciate.
6. If you are an insurance agent, PLEASE DON’T ASK YOUR CUSTOMER WHO HAS CANCER, IS IT YOUR LIFESTYLE THAT’S WHY YOU HAVE CANCER!
   I would like to ask “what type of lifestyle will cause cancer?” Maybe the agent can give me a list of it. This is a very stupid question to ask!
7. If you are an insurance agent, PLEASE DON’T ASK YOUR CUSTOMER WHO IS GOING FOR CHEMOTHERAPY IF YOU CAN TALK TO HER DURING HER CHEMOTHERAPY SESSION.
   FYI, she is going for chemotherapy not manicure session whereby she is being pampered. #rolleyesmoment
8. Don’t send articles (which you hope to lighten the atmosphere ) that say “alcohol cures insomnia”.
   After chemo, sometimes we have to go through some side effects like insomnia. We are already suffering. FYI, we are TRYING TO GET USED TO SOMETHING THAT IS TRYING TO KILL THE CANCER INCLUDING THE GOOD CELLS IN MY BODY. And it already sucks to be like this plus the fact that our liver are working doubly hard to get rid of the CHEMO DRUGS what make you think this article will be funny to us.
   * If you have nothing good to say or don’t know what to say, I would prefer you don’t say anything.
9. When someone asked you “How are you?” and your reply was ” same same”. You then got blasted: “YOU MUST CONFESS YOU ARE BETTER.”
   If I confess and then I don’t get better then how? Who is responsible ah?
   I will just ignore such statements. Okay, I always believe medicine and doctors are created by God. So if confession can cure me, why do we need doctors? Okay, this is personal opinion. You don’t have to like it, I ALSO DON’T NEED YOU TO CRUCIFY ME FOR MY OPINION!
10. Oh I hope you don’t mind but I shared your condition with so and so because of….
    Okay, I am not ashamed because I have cancer that’s not why I mind the sharing. I have friends (friends who care about me) who ASKED ME FIRST IF I AM ALRIGHT WITH THEM SHARING WITH SO AND SO, and I said sure. I cannot hide forever.
    Key sentence: They sought my permission FIRST!
    Why bothering asking me when you already share with so and so. I even have friends who texted me to check on how I am coping (I am grateful) who heard from someone that I don’t even speak to. In my heart, “Now I am a topic of discussion for people.”Guess I just have to say it out to be alright.All of the ABOVE are my own sentiments and feelings, if you don’t like it, too bad! If you can relate to it, do drop me a comment and let me know! #beingbitchyisjustawayIletoutmyemotionsandcopewithmysickness:)